#14 Guys do a lot of talking. Let their actions speak for them.

15 Aug

“Everytime I see you with your boys, you pretend as if you don’t want me.  When you get home you call me on the phone and tell me how much you care.”  -Destiny’s Child “No, No, No” Part 2

How many times have you sung this line in your head or actually spoken these words to the man in your life?  Or remember at the end of that date when he said, “I had a great time.  I would love to see you again,” but you never heard from him again?  Or when he said, “I will call you” and your phone never rang.  Yeah, I know you remember. 

Well, in case you never read the book or saw the movie He’s Just Not That Into You, let me be the one to tell you–if he wanted to see you again, he would ask you on another date.  If he wanted to talk to you again, he would call you.  Yeah, yeah, yeah.  I know what he said.  I’ve heard those lines myself a time or two…or three…or ten.  I know you’re telling yourself, trying to convince yourself, wanting to make yourself believe that he meant what he said, but if he meant it he would follow-up with actions proving it. 

I decided to write about this after watching an episode of MTV’s Jersey Shore (there are so many WHY moments on this show).  Let me set it up for you.  So apparently Sammi Sweetheart and Ronnie (who looks like he’s all too familiar with roid rage) used to date, but now they are broken up.  After a few minutes of watching this episode, it became clear that Sammi is not over Ronnie.  So Ronnie and Sammi get into an argument and he completely disrespects her and calls her the “c” word.  He goes to the club and kisses and grinds on anything and everything in a skirt.  He comes home from the club and climbs in bed with Sammi and is kissing on her and loving on her and she accepts it like its ok.  Like she forgot what happened earlier in the night.  Like she was hit with a case of amnesia.  After watching a little more, it is so clear that Ronnie “loves” Sammi when it’s convenient, but his actions tell a completely different story.  Ladies, actions speak so much louder than words.  Make him prove what he says. 

Of all the relationship advice books, is there one that you think offers the best advice?  Do you disagree with them?  Is there any advice that you would give?

(Image courtesy of Amazon.com)


3 Responses to “#14 Guys do a lot of talking. Let their actions speak for them.”

  1. thenamelesschronicles August 16, 2010 at 7:06 am #

    The guy I’m dating is just the opposite. He never compliments me, has a hard time looking me in the eye. BUT, he calls/texts me just about everyday…no, he does call/text me every day. And we’ve only known each other for 3 weeks or so now, but we’re getting ready for our…I guess…6th date on Thursday. It’s one of the oddest relationships I’ve ever been in. I’m guessing that since his actions are so forward that he’s into me…but boy, you could hardly tell it in other ways!

  2. Hillerie Camille August 24, 2010 at 12:36 am #

    ACTIONS, ACTIONS, ACTIONS, nothing else matters. Period!

  3. mct88 October 2, 2010 at 4:37 pm #

    That’s what I always say…” Actions speak louder than words.”

    I don’t care what you tell me you had better do it and I had better see some action with those words!

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